I love that movie “What Women Want”. You know, the one where Mel Gibson is the ageing sexist advertising executive who by accident gets the power to read women’s thoughts.

His new power gives him a better understanding of how women think and how different those thoughts are from blokes.

I had one of those experiences the other night. I was at a Christmas party on a table of mostly women. One of the blokes arrived late because he’d gone to the traditional marriage class with his fiancé run by the minister who was marrying them.

He was describing some of the advice from the session so I asked the girls at the table what’s their best piece of advice, from a woman’s point of view, for the groom-to-be.

It was one of those “what women want” moments.

- Put your shit away; put the plate in the dishwasher rather than just in the sink. Put dirty clothes in the basket not on the floor next to it.

- Change the toilet roll properly; when the toilet paper runs out, replace it and then put the old roll on the bin rather than in top of the cistern.

- maintain Date Night; keep putting in the leg work even after the ceremony.

- make time for each other.

- don’t fart under the doona just because you’re married.

- be masculine.

- treat your wife like your girlfriend.

- don’t scratch your balls.

I know books like “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus” have been telling us for years about the differences between men and women but blokes are thick and we’re constantly dumbfounded by how far apart those differences are.

Ladies, help my mate Richard as he starts his journey of betrothal. Give me your one best piece advice to a bloke getting married which will ensure he becomes a super husband.

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0 #9 2011-03-19 16:03

Find out what her 'love language' is and "speak it" regularly.

If you haven't a clue what I'm talking about, chances are you may not communicating your love in the way she may need it. For example, my primary love language is 'physical touch' followed closely by 'words of affirmation'. My hubby, bless him, is not a 'touchy feely' kind of guy, nor is he one to give out compliments or encouragement. This can leave my love needs unmet, dispite all his well meaning grand jestures and thoughtful gifts. I'd rather have a hug and an "I appreciate you" than jewelry or a night out.

How do you know what "says love" to your partner or loved ones? Check out http://www.5lovelanguages.com/
Take the free quiz. Buy and read the book. (then share it with her so she speaks your language too!) You'll be amazed with the results.

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0 #8 2010-12-13 23:40

Remember birthdays and anniversaries (put them as recurring events in your phone calendar with reminders!) and BUY your partner something nice for ALL of them! Perfume, jewellery, crystal or a voucher to her favourite hairdresser/day spa work well...

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0 #7 2010-12-13 17:43

Just remember that marriage is about team work and not about doing the traditional duties of husband and wife. More importantly - talk to each other about each other and not just on who's turn to wash up or cook dinner

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0 #6 2010-12-13 10:15

Thanks David - I now have no excuses should my marriage go down the pan. I'd had high hopes of sitting on the couch and watching cricket for the next 50 years but this may have to change now.....!

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0 #5 2010-12-13 09:26

Keep letting your partner know that you love them. Sneak in a cheeky kiss at random times like when doing a bit of DIY around the house, or when you walk past them somewhere. Romance doesnt have to go out the window...especially after having kids. And most of all be honest about absolutley everything, no one likes being lied to.

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0 #4 2010-12-13 09:23

Keep the toilet and shower clean (specifically that means you should actually clean them). Your wife won't fly off the handle as much if she doesn't have to use them as if they're public toilet and shower !

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0 #3 2010-12-13 08:57

Really easy tip - Happy wife, Happy life!!

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+1 #2 2010-12-13 08:54

Just remember, guys, it isn't ALL about you, there is another person involved too.

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0 #1 2010-12-13 08:45

Just because u get married doesn't mean u can let urself go! I loved it that my ex and I continued to stay fit, eat well and dress to impress each other!

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